Candy said it best, "everybody cheats, but you got to know how, you got to when, and you got to know why." The real question is what's the point? If that person does not satisfy your every needs, why is it so hard to tell them that it is over. Life would be so much easier and maybe a lot more peaceful if people were honest with themselves.
I took a poll at my work place, and beside the controversy I stirred up I was able to come up with three reasons why men and women cheat.
3. Lack of Sex
So, apparently if you're not putting out your partner will be looking elsewhere. Intercourse is a big part in a relationship, marriage, fling... Whatever your preference hopefully, it comes with a very healthy sex drive to keep your partner happy and monogamous.
2. Jealously
Everyone can't handle the male friends and the late night phone calls. When jealously enters the relationship, it's not a pretty color on anyone. If you can't handle your significant others past, present, and what his future might hold, maybe you should be more selective. Jealously should never be a factor in a relationship unless, you're insecure and that's a problem that should be addressed before you make a commitment to someone.
1. Neglect
Change is only good for better. If you use to do something you can't just stop. You can't forget to tell them that you love them, or give them a kiss goodnight. I know if my man forgot about me, I might not remember him when put under pressure by an attractive young man (smile).
According to my co workers these are the main reasons they would cheat on their partners. 2 particular comment I found very interesting was by a man who said, “If I don't think I'm going to marry her I'm going to cheat on her" and by a women, “if I see a naked picture in his phone I'm cheating." To everyone out there choose your partners wisely, because you never know what you might get.
I love your blog, and the posts about your Daughter and the poem you wrote. Also, the photo in this post is hilarious.
ReplyDeleteCheating is never okay, in my opinion. I'm glad you wrote this post about it, and it'll hopefully shed some light on something that is far too common these days.
ReplyDeleteI find it crazy that JEALOUSY is one of the reasons one would cheat. You would think that jealousy would be a deterrent - you're possessive of your partner, so it defies logic that you would stray from an individual that evokes such strong emotion in you.
ReplyDeleteI do understand the other reasons, however. Without sex, a romantic relationship can be comparable to friendship. That physical connection is important, and it needs to be maintained. The same goes with neglect. If you neglect your partner, you may as well not be dating them for all the effort and attention you put in (or lack thereof). Both the physical and emotional elements of a relationship have to be attended to. Although neither justify cheating. If you're unhappy in your relationship, or something is missing that needs to be satiated by another individual, you shouldn't be with that person anymore, and nothing justifies betraying the commitment of that relationship in cheating.